Many adopted children have experienced abuse, neglect, and unpredictable behavior from adults. It is especially hard for them to trust men if their biological father drank, was violent, and ignored their needs. The love of new parents does not replace trauma treatment: the child may freeze, avoid hugs, test whether someone will come back for them, and push people away, as if trying to make sure they won’t be abandoned again. Without a psychologist’s help, attachment develops slowly and painfully.
A five-year-old boy has been living with his adoptive family for six months. Before that, he was with his biological family, where his father drank, was violent, and ignored him. Now he has a new dad who is present and tries to do everything possible for him. But the boy doesn’t trust him. He freezes at a loud voice, refuses hugs, as if expecting a blow or a shout. Sometimes he gets angry and pushes away. This is not misbehavior, but attachment trauma. A psychologist helps the boy process his fear and learn to trust, and helps the father understand his son’s behavior and not give up.
We are raising funds for psychological sessions for adopted children and their families. Support our campaign—your help gives children a chance to trust adults and feel safe.
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